Monday, November 10, 2008
Soul Coaching: Day 9. Water Week Day 2
Focus of the day is examining the meaning you give your life.
Affirmation: "My Life Experiences have positive, powerful meanings"
It's amazing, I got a little miffy reading this one saying "Lookit, tough and hard stuff I've gone through didn't feel positive at all missy!".
Then I re-read the passages. There isn't anything about 'feeling' or 'emotions' in there. I totally made that connection and that isn't what the day or the exercise is about. Now, do I think emotions and meanings are connected? You bet. Can they change? First thought: Of course not you feel what you feel.... oops, going to reign that in.
Of course the connection of event to a reaction can be changed. Skeptical? Here's an example.
Ever see a kid walk into a wall or fall down? Then look around to see peoples reaction? Depending on the reaction of those around them, they may start to cry or just keep walking into the wall. Hey, walking into walls is fun - I do it to this day.
The connection between the event and reaction is learned. So, because we learn to cry cuz someone looks concerned, why can't we learn to react differently if we think of the scenario different?
I haven't done the exercise yet for today, so nothing to share there.
More from Day 8:
I went full out and did the Level III from yesterday and that was totally fascinating. Here are some of the things I noticed (re-reading this I didn't quite to the excerices as it's spelled out, but it was still insightful):
-the majority of the life history/events my experience was reactionary, not proactive
-almost never have I send any kind of end goal, but one did I achieve (yay!)
-the proactive things were very quick decisions, had something I had an intuitive driven to do
-the proactive things ended up in positive experiences, for the most part
It's totally wierd that it was about emotions but I didn't end up focussing on that. Then today we are talking about meaning and I'm fixated on emotions. Weird!
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